Alcohol, Tobacco, and Other Drugs (ATOD)
How to Help a Friend
Initiating a conversation about a friend's substance use can be difficult, but it can also make a lifesaving difference.
Look at the impact, not just the amount. Does your friend do things they regret—like fighting, damaging property, driving under the influence, or having unplanned or unwanted sex? These behaviors matter, even if they don’t happen all the time. It's not about how often they use it, but what happens when they do.
Needing help doesn’t mean they’re an addict. Struggling with substances doesn't always look like full-blown addiction. Some people can go long periods without using—but if their use leads to harm, confusion, or chaos when it happens, that’s reason enough to be concerned.
Support comes in many forms. Sometimes, a caring friend’s honest words can be a wake-up call. Other times, people need professional help to make changes. They may benefit from treatment, counseling, or support groups to change their relationship with a substance. Wherever your friend is in their journey, compassion and consistency go a long way.
Speak from your experience. Use “I” statements like “I felt scared when you disappeared that night” or “I miss the version of you who showed up on time.” You don’t need to fix them—just tell the truth, with love. Even if they’re not ready to hear it now, your words might plant the seed that grows later.
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Celebrate smart. Look out for each other. Get home safely!
The Student Health and Counseling Center understands that graduation is a time to celebrate your hard work and achievements, but wants to encourage students to make it memorable for the right reasons by staying safe, aware, and connected. Remember:
1. Plan ahead: Go out with people you trust, and share your location or plans with a trusted friend/family member. Plus, make sure to plan your ride home before the party starts.
2. Be aware of your surroundings: Never leave your drink unattended, don't accept drinks from strangers, and avoid drinking games or rapid consumption.
3. Stick together: Use the buddy system all night, and check in on friends regularly. Don't let a friend leave alone or with someone they don't know. When in doubt, if someone looks uncomfortable or unsafe, step in or get help.
4. Get home safely: Never drive under the influence! Use a sober driver, rideshare, or campus escort. Walk in groups, and stay in well-lit areas.
5. Know your limits: Eat before or during drinking. Alternate alcohol with water. Avoid mixing substances, and it's OK to say "no" -- your safety comes first.
Last but not least, for emergencies, always call 911. You can also contact Fresno State campus police (non-emergency) at 559.278.8400.
Have fun. Stay Safer. Celebrate responsibly!